Sharing the Bed!…(Can you Handle It?)
Let me start by saying hello world, and good day to you. Thanks for reading apart of my world. I had the priveledge to speak to an old friend recently. We had a one on one conversation and it was just that. Not sharing words in years, the awakening occurred. He and I had a great bit of catching up, and thinking back. Laughter moments, and things that make you say….. hummmmm!
A friend is a friend. I am an open book. As an open book, I may want to sit on the shelf or picked up to read through certain chapters. Sometimes I will listen and sometimes I just want you to listen. There are times the phone hangs up or our presence may leave one another, and I just sigh…wow, o.k….!? …long time no see or hear or totally understand.
When people call, I am usually all ears. The conversations may start out at A but can quickly travel to Z! I love to laugh and learn. Life experiences told by the others can also be a good experience, for both parties. My friend who I spoke to briefly has 3 beautiful children and is married. He and his wife have been together more than 15 years. Yes, I must say that he is handsome, smart and has a great humor. Let’s just say an attractive person with much potential, and his wife probably has all the same qualities.
The conversation started with small talk and eventually led to the big stuff. Let me speed up and tell you he and his wife are separating, and discussing a divorce. Trust me, I am sure I do not know half of the story, just hear me out. The couple realized they were in need of a relationship makeover, years ago. What kind of make over you may ask…?…how about add another body or two, to the equation! Should I say 3-some or maybe 4-some?! (not sure, I was not there)
Sure and true, I have not been in this kind of relationship. One reason I like too much attention to truly be happy in this kind of “fix”. (and if I was, I did not know it) Please realize that to each is his/her own. Who am I to judge? I am not married. Maybe, I know what I want and need. I am not good with second place and I do not want to share, period! O.k., here I am world…just being the listening ear, sharing stories and appreciating the openness.
My gentleman friend quoted, “as long as I have the heart and soul, in the marriage, the body can go any where.” (not sure if every word is exact, but yes, that is what he pretty much said) With that heard loud and clear I would think very strong heartily, they have or had an OPEN relationship/marriage for some while …hummmmm!? The openness of the conversation had us embraced by real life dilemmas. The thinking back part was the transition from high school beliefs and adult life realities.
Please know from what I understand both enjoyed this life-style. Evidently, the woman was tired of the life-style or sharing her man. Either way, there is a family that may fall apart. What should happen in this situation? Personally, I would like to see them work it out. Family is still family.
The questions and answers were very honest. He is a man who wants a wife and a “side!” Who knows, if there is a divorce, he may only want “sides”. (sounds too much like, “would you like fries with that shake?”) With that being said, we must go into the relationship with truth and honesty. If you do not mind 3 and 4-somes, your prerogative. Maybe you do your “side-work”, with or without the “main” partner, your spouse.
Please understand, if you do not express your motives in the beginning, you may jeopardize a great relation. If you change your mind, let it me known. Be nice to self and respect the other party and again, listen. Smile when you speak, and share quality time when you are able. It is not my responsibility to tell him or you right from wrong. A friend shared, and I care about the out come. Let’s be wiser and love the one we are with…if at all possible!
…I learned from the best, I learned from you!
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